Tuesday, October 22, 2019
14 Things You Should Never Say at Work
14 Things You Should Never Say at Work No matter how smart you are- or think you are- or how well youââ¬â¢re doing in your career, itââ¬â¢s always possible to make sure youââ¬â¢re not doing anything to sabotage yourself. There are a ton of little things you can do to fine-tune your conversation skills- eliminating corporate clichà ©s, getting rid of less-than-confident-sounding filler, and limiting your use of negative words. Here are a few words and phrases to weed out of your conversation in the office, for your own success.1. ââ¬Å"Justâ⬠ââ¬Å"I just wanted toâ⬠¦ â⬠ââ¬Å"I was justâ⬠¦ â⬠ââ¬Å"I just thoughtâ⬠¦Ã¢â¬ These are all basically code for ââ¬Å"Iââ¬â¢m sorry to bother you.â⬠Youââ¬â¢re not bothering anyone; youââ¬â¢re contributing. Youââ¬â¢re doing your job. Youââ¬â¢re probably delivering something necessary to a coworker. Start to notice how often you throw ââ¬Å"justâ⬠as if trying to ask permission. Be less meek!2. ââ¬Å"Unfairâ⬠N othing is fair. Even if youââ¬â¢re stating the obvious truth, stay quiet. Youââ¬â¢ll only sound negative and immature. Stay constructive and keep your head above the fray.3. ââ¬Å"Sorryâ⬠Especially ââ¬Å"sorry, butâ⬠¦Ã¢â¬ Donââ¬â¢t apologize for asking for things, for taking up space, or for having ideas. Especially when youââ¬â¢re not actually sorry.4. ââ¬Å"This is how itââ¬â¢s always been done.â⬠Congratulations, you sound lazy and resistant to change. Like an old dog that canââ¬â¢t learn new and innovative tricks. Keep an open mind to new ways of doing things and better ideas.5. ââ¬Å"Iââ¬â¢m no expert, butâ⬠¦ â⬠Women so often preface everything they say with this kind of qualifying phrase. You want to avoid sounding pushy or arrogant, but itââ¬â¢s just silly. Own your ideas. Just donââ¬â¢t be pushy or arrogant, and youââ¬â¢ll be fine.6. ââ¬Å"This is a stupid question/silly ideaâ⬠¦Ã¢â¬ Youââ¬â¢re immediately s etting yourself up to look like you donââ¬â¢t belong at the big kidsââ¬â¢ table. There are no stupid questions, not really. And sometimes silly ideas are the ones that turn a company around. Think before you speak, but donââ¬â¢t qualify what you say as trivial before youââ¬â¢ve even said it.7. ââ¬Å"Iââ¬â¢ll try.â⬠Yoda perhaps said it best. ââ¬Å"Do or do not. There is no try.â⬠8. ââ¬Å"Itââ¬â¢s not my fault.â⬠Even if this is true, you sound like you canââ¬â¢t take responsibility for anything. Roll your sleeves up and get your hands dirty trying to come up with a solution, rather than shirking blame.9. ââ¬Å"I canââ¬â¢t.â⬠If you were your boss, what would you think hearing that? That youââ¬â¢re unwilling to give it your best effort?10. ââ¬Å"I hate this job.â⬠I mean, really. You should know not to let this one slip already. Even in jest.11. ââ¬Å"Likeâ⬠Try to avoid talking like a valley girl (or like Shoshanna on HBOâ⠬â¢s Girls). Try to keep stupid filler words out of your sentences and avoid the supremely annoying speech tic that is ââ¬Å"vocal fry.â⬠If youââ¬â¢re an up talker? Thatââ¬â¢s always raising your pitch? At the end of every sentence? Try training yourself to read aloud lowering your arm every time you reach a period.12. ðŸâ¢â à You donââ¬â¢t need to use emoji to express cheerfulness or camaraderie at work. Thatââ¬â¢s for your friends. Keep the cutesy and the capslock and the exclamation points for your iMessages and leave your work words unadorned.13. ââ¬Å"Does that make sense?â⬠It probably did before you asked. Donââ¬â¢t second guess yourself mid-explanation. That will only lead your coworkers to second guess you too.14. ââ¬Å"You look tired.â⬠Never tell anyone this, no matter how true it is. Theyââ¬â¢ll just feel awful about themselves. And youââ¬â¢ll look like a jerk.
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